Welcome! Meet:

Kwame + Holly

Project Manager / Stay At Home Mom

New Jersey

Multi-Ethnic / Asian

Christian / Buddhist

All About Kwame & Holly

We are Holly and Kwame and our daughter is "K" We are married and have been together for 12 years. Our world became even bigger when we got pregnant and K was born 6 years ago. It's so true that when you have a baby, your heart grows bigger. We are ready and so happy to welcome another little one! We are open to any race. We think having a big sister like our daughter would be such a plus for a baby. The baby would be sooo loved by a mom and a dad and a big sister! 

We have a very family centered life. We love kids and we are excited to grow our family through adoption. We are Home Study Approved.

Our family is vibrant and filled with love. We love spending time together, making memories and supporting each other. We are a multi-racial family. We are a part of a multi-cultural family oriented community in NJ. We live in a safe, family-friendly suburb known for its kind people with strong family values and great schools. We are ready for the changes that occur with another baby. We are so excited about being a part of another child's journey through life! Thank you for taking time to look at our profile!

Why Adoption?

We were trying to conceive a second child, but we had difficulty. We sought fertility treatment and did non-invasive procedures, but it didn’t work. Adoption always seemed like a natural choice for us because we love kids and we can easily love a child unconditionally. After meeting with a few adoptive parents in our community and seeing the love, warmth and natural bonding in their families, it seemed like the right choice for us and it confirmed what we were already thinking. We are aware that adoption is complicated for all concerned and we are ready to take on the challenges.

Family & Home

We live in a racially diverse suburb in Northern New Jersey. We love where we live and it's ideal for family life. In our neighborhood, on the same block where we live there is a botanical garden & natural wildlife habitat. We go there often. We live in a safe neighborhood and it’s also easily walkable to the downtown area which has cultural family friendly events. Also in our immediate area, there are many beautiful parks, playgrounds, gardens and nature preserves. Our community is progressive, compassionate and open minded. There are so many kind hearted people here. There are many adoptive families and multi-racial families and so there's a great support system for adoptive families.

We have formed strong bonds with our community. We have built a strong support system during the almost 7 years we've lived here and it continues to grow stronger every year. We have made many fellow parent friends with whom we can share parenting advice and support. We volunteer our time in the schools and community. We support local businesses, many of whom have become family friends. We love living in a community filled with people from all different backgrounds who appreciate a sense of community. 

Our parent "village" where we live is strong. Parents in our community have strong family values. When we were pregnant with our daughter, we went to an infant CPR class and we met other expecting parents there who live in our town and they became part of our core parent friend group. We helped each other adjust to life as new mothers and supported each other through the newborn phase, baby years, preschool and through present day. Our families are still friends today and we attend each other's kids' birthday parties and school and town events. We continue to make friends with even more families as our daughter grows. We're lucky to have this growing support system. Our daughter has friends who are diverse and her future sibling surely would as well!

Our family means the world to us, and we love spending time together whenever we can. We are lucky to have a huge extended family, mostly in part to Kwame having so many aunts and uncles and countless cousins. There is a constant stream of birthday parties, Thanksgiving dinners, holiday gatherings, barbecues, weddings, baby showers, wedding anniversaries and more. And when we can't make it in person, we often connect via Facetime in real time to the event!

We believe that family isn't only defined by blood, which is why adoption feels so natural to us. Many of our friends have become like family, from longtime friends since childhood, work colleagues who became friends, to friends we made in recent years as fellow parents. Our friends include people from diverse backgrounds and lived experiences.

How others describe me

Holly described by Kwame:

Holly has been a stay at home mom since our daughter was born. She loves being a hands on mom who is there for all the milestones and special moments that our daughter has. She loves spending time with her and nurturing her interests as she becomes her own unique person.

Holly is Korean-American. She was born and raised in NY. She has a Bachelor’s degree in political science and she worked in creative fields and nonprofits prior to being a stay at home mom. She loves movies, books, and the arts. Holly appreciates the simple things in life, like kindness and empathy. She loves and protects those close to her with a big heart. She loves to laugh and joke around as well.

Holly volunteers at K's schools. She was a class parent in her preschool and volunteered teaching nature related lessons in her kindergarten. She also volunteers for a community nonprofit and she works on projects bringing fun cultural events to her community, for both adults and kids.

Embracing and celebrating different cultures is important to her. She makes sure that our daughter is aware of both her Korean and Jamaican heritage. She talks about Jamaica and Korea regularly. She reads books to her which contain diverse characters. She understands the importance of representation for kids to see themselves in a positive light. She would be super supportive of celebrating the cultural background of K's future sibling!


Kwame described by Holly:

Kwame loves being a dad and enjoys being involved in family life. He's a great dad. He has a calm and friendly down to earth personality. He's patient, warm and kind and has a great sense of humor.

Kwame is Jamaican- American. He was born in Jamaica and spent his childhood there growing up with strong connections to family and friends, many of whom he is still close to today! He lights up every time he sees his childhood friends. Whenever we get together, it feels like a huge extended family.

Kwame enjoys many sports, but in particular soccer has always been a passion of Kwame's to watch as a fan or to play whenever possible. Like playing through the ups and downs of a soccer game Kwame tries to bring calm to life, and always make space to appreciate blessings. He's got an easy going sunny personality and is a positive person. Kwame enjoys music and practicing guitar and making up silly songs with  K. He enjoys playing songs by Bob Marley to Bob Dylan to Bruce Springsteen.

He is proud of his Jamaican heritage, but also celebrates Korean culture and has taken it upon himself to learn Korean. He loves learning new languages and also taught himself some French, Spanish and Portuguese.

Kwame has a Bachelor’s degree in Engineering. He works as a Project Manager and has been doing so for over a decade. He handles his relationships with his colleagues and clients with professionalism, positive energy and warmth.

how we met

How We Met

We met in New York City through a mutual friend. Holly’s coworker was a childhood friend of Kwame’s and she invited him to an office happy hour and this is where we met. The Knicks happened to be on a winning streak and that’s why our conversation started because everyone was talking about it excitedly. We got married a few years later and moved to a tree-lined family oriented diverse suburb in Northern New Jersey a few months before K was born. We've been together for 12 years. We've traveled together and visited several countries and also lots of fun places in the US (even did an Amtrak train trip through half of the country together!), but we also enjoy staying home and everyday life together as a family.

Advice to Future Child

  • Be yourself. We will embrace all your unique personality traits and love you unconditionally no matter what. 
  • Take chances and be brave. It's okay to make mistakes, the important thing is to learn from them and apologize to people you may have hurt, even if it was not intentional. 
  • Get an education because it will help you see and experience the world from new perspectives and enrich your life. You’ll get to meet people from all walks of life.
  • Our career advice is to find something that you love and do your best at it. If you can work doing something you love, you’ll have a great life.
  • Work hard, but also remember the importance of pure joy and having fun. 
  • Be kind to yourself and others. 
  • Surround yourself with good hearted people. Make good choices when choosing friends because we become like the company we keep. 
  • Always speak up for yourself and for what you believe in. This doesn’t have to be done by being loud or rude, but doing so respectfully and professionally is always okay.
  • There will be hard times in life, but remember that you are deeply loved. Walk through the difficult time and feel it all. When you come out of it, you will have become stronger for facing it with courage.
  • The next part is a quote about parenting from a book and we have it posted on our refrigerator since our daughter was born. It's something that we believe in fully as parents. 
  • Saying to a newborn: “As you begin your wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly. I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply, seeing you.”

Perspectives on Open Adoption

Everything we have heard from adoptive parents and books and articles talks about the benefits of open adoption for an adopted child. We believe that it's important for a child to know their roots and history, for an adopted child that includes their biological roots as well. We would fully support an open adoption.

Favorites

Kwame
  • Favorite Movie: It’s A Wonderful Life
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: Christmas / wearing family Christmas PJs
  • Hobbies/Interests: playing guitar, playing soccer and learning languages
  • Dream Vacation: Tahiti, safari in Africa
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: to be able to shape shift into anything
Holly
  • Favorite Movie: Wizard of Oz
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: Thanksgiving / going around the table and everyone saying what they are thankful for
  • Hobbies/Interests: tennis, biking, reading, movies, music concerts, the beach
  • Dream Vacation: Galapagos Islands, safari in Africa
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: time travel

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